Have an Aliveness Mindset by Reframing Your Negative Thoughts
Jack discusses reframing negative thoughts with Dan Rockwell of Leadership Freak.
What we tell ourselves becomes our reality.
When I’m coaching a client, I pay close attention to the words they use. How are they describing a situation? Here are some recent examples:
- “Work’s a grind.”
- “I’ve never done this before.”
- “I have to do this.”
- “That would be egotistical.”
How we relate to the experience is the experience.
- Work IS a grind.
- They approach work with fear and caution.
- They act from obligation.
- They are timid.
When we are feeling fear or reactivity, we are likely in a fixed mindset and feeling disempowered. We are not at our best.
4 steps to an aliveness mindset:
- Awareness is the first step.
Notice when you are in a fixed mindset. Pay attention to the words you are using. Remind yourself to approach it with a growth mindset. - Take responsibility for your experience.
Your reaction is a choice. Ask, how do you want to feel and approach the situation? What do you need to do differently? - Reframe what you are telling yourself.
If a thought isn’t helpful, replace it with a more helpful thought.
I like using this quote by James Clear to help clients and teams reframe. “Without altering the facts of the situation you are facing and without ignoring the reality of what must be done, what is the most useful and empowering story you can tell yourself about what is happening and what you need to do next?”
These are real examples from my clients:
- Work is challenging, and I love challenges.
- I’ve thrived taking on new roles and responsibilities.
- I choose to do this.
- I embrace owning the value that I bring at work.
- Appreciate yourself.
When you change your pattern from reactivity to an empowering thought, appreciate yourself for about 15-30 seconds. It helps rewire your brain and create new neural pathways for healthier, more productive thoughts.
How can you shape your mindset today?
How might leaders influence the mindset of others?